Kids experience complex feelings. Just like adults they get frustrated, excited, nervous, sad, jealous, frightened, worried, angry and embarrassed.
Our kids don’t have the vocabulary to talk about how they are feeling. Instead, they express their feelings through facial expressions, through their body, their behavior and play. Sometimes they may act out their feelings in physical, inappropriate or problematic ways. They need guidance on how to manage their feelings in positive and constructive ways.
Verbalizing acceptance of your child’s emotions is a key to helping him feel loved and understood. Acknowledging out loud his disappointment makes him feel heard and respected, which calms him down and reduces his need to protest physically.
Acknowledging their feelings will assist him toward a better self-understanding. Children often experience a swirl of emotions inside and do not know what is happening. When you can label his emotions and attach it to a situation the child will feel calmer.
As the child grows, he will internalize this way of working with emotions and handle life situations in a more effective way.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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