1. Be supportive of your kids
It is important for a child to find their sense of self at their age. Their childhood is a crucial point in their life in which they discover their wants, aspirations, ambitions, their identity. Allow them to explore their interests and hobbies, give them praise for their achievements no matter how small, raise them to become strong and independent yet compassionate. Do not be controlling of every single aspect of their lives for it will only make them feel as if they have no control of it or grow to become heavily dependent. Parents should be the guiding wind, instead of a governing river.
2. Be consistent with your rules and limitations
Kids can… get tough at times, even more so if they perceive the house rules as “open to interpretation”. Discipline is an important aspect of child-rearing, and so with consistent rules and their corresponding consequences, they may learn to be held accountable for their actions.
3. Make time for your children
As parents, you will most likely desire a wealthy life for your children to grow up comfortably, and truly that is the goal of which parents shed blood, sweat and tears for. However, do not brush off the most valuable possession of yours that cannot be bought by any currency, that is a fraction of your time. Not only will this help your child to grow up with the attention and affirmation they need, but you’ll also be able to see where your child needs most support.
4. Listen to them
Oftentimes talking to parents can be like conversing with a wall, stubborn and unmoving. Don’t always resort to authority when your child questions the rationale behind your judgement. Be reasonable and allow them to give their insights regarding certain issues and beliefs. This will help your child to be articulate, and by doing so they tend to rebel less because they will see you as a guiding figure, and not an authoritative one.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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