Relationships thrive when you act lovingly towards one another, willing to make an effort to grow, and committed to working on themselves.
Follow these ways to live peacefully with ADHD:
Life with ADHD is often frantic. Leaving the house, finishing projects, and showing up for appointments on time can be stressful for the person with ADHD. Each day whizzes by. Sometimes you can’t even remember where you went, what you did, and who you were with. ADHD is fast-moving, in the body and in the mind. Take time to slow down your body. Intentionally, move slower. Your mind will follow.
People with ADHD have a few more challenges than most. However, everyone is imperfect. Even you. Once you accept your own flaws, you will think differently about your partner’s imperfections. We are human; all of us are struggling through life individually, yet together. Judgmental, critical thoughts distance you from peace and love.
LOOK FOR THE GOOD
Every trait has a positive and a negative side to it. The trait that drives you crazy is probably the same trait that brings a benefit to your life. Start by giving compliments. Say something nice. Sometimes you have to look hard to find it, but if you value your relationship, it’s worth the effort.
BE ON THE SAME TEAM
One of the most important things you can do is join forces. Be on the same team. Bickering, competing, and criticizing are unhealthy habits. When you’re amid negativity, be it an argument or just the voice in your head, remember to regroup, readjust, and realign your thoughts so that you feel united.
This is indispensable within any relationship. A person with ADHD often feels disappointed, overwhelmed, and frustrated. When a person with ADHD appears to be acting selfishly, it may be that he or she is feeling overwhelmed with their own thoughts. ADHD takes up a lot of mental and emotional bandwidth. It’s exhausting and often the ADHDer is struggling to get through the next task. Slow down, be compassionate, and refrain from judgment. Your ADHD loved one will respond lovingly to your kindness.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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