How To Help Your Child to Do Chores

 

 

One of the most important lessons we can teach our children is the value of responsibility — and housework is a big part of that. But if you’re raising a child with ADHD, you know this isn’t always simple.

Children with ADHD often struggle with following multi-step directions, staying organized, and keeping focus long enough to finish what they started. That doesn’t mean they can’t learn — it just means they need a little more structure, patience, and creativity from us.

Here are some practical ways to make chores easier and more successful for your child:

 

🔹 1. Break chores into smaller steps

Saying “Clean your room” can feel overwhelming — it’s too broad. Instead, break it down into smaller, clear steps. You can even write them on a checklist or use sticky notes for each task. For example:
✅ Pick up toys and put them away
✅ Put dirty clothes in the hamper
✅ Make your bed
✅ Arrange books or shelves

Completing small tasks gives your child a sense of accomplishment and keeps them focused one step at a time.

 

🔹 2. Set a clear (and gentle) deadline

Deadlines help children with ADHD focus and stay on track — but they work best when they’re realistic and kind. Instead of saying “Hurry up,” try setting a timer or using visual cues like a clock or music playlist. Remind them gently along the way to help them pace themselves.

 

🔹 3. Use a visual chore chart

Children with ADHD often respond well to visual reminders. A chore chart, whiteboard, or colorful tracker lets them see what needs to be done and how much they’ve already accomplished. Watching tasks get checked off can be motivating and rewarding in itself

 

🔹 4. Offer positive incentives

Motivation goes a long way. Small rewards — like extra playtime, choosing the next family movie, or earning pocket money — can make a big difference. The key is consistency: if you promise a reward, make sure to follow through.

 

🔹 5. Step in when they need help

Sometimes, even with structure, your child might still feel overwhelmed. That’s okay. Offer to help, but let them take the lead when possible. You can make chores into a team activity — or even turn it into a game! (“Let’s see who can pick up more toys in one minute!”)

 

🔹 6. Know your child deeply

Every child with ADHD is unique. Pay attention to what excites them, what frustrates them, and what helps them focus. When you understand their triggers and strengths, you’ll know when to step in and when to step back.

And remember — not every tough moment comes from defiance. Sometimes, it’s just overwhelm showing up as resistance. Meeting that moment with empathy can make all the difference. 💛

 

🌟 Final Thoughts

Chores aren’t just about cleaning — they’re about teaching responsibility, independence, and resilience. For children with ADHD, learning these skills takes time, but with patience, creativity, and love, they’ll get there.

Every small success builds confidence. And one day, you’ll realize your child isn’t just doing chores — they’re taking pride in doing them.

 

 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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