A better approach is to let kids figure out their capabilities by taking some risks. Instead of always freaking out, just watch. If you see determination on his face even if it’s mixed with fear – let him, be. Remain close by, if it makes you more comfortable, but resist the urge to reach out.
Rather than immediately stop your child’s “crazy plans,” watch and observe. Ask what he’s doing. If you see something potentially unsafe, speak up. Express your concern, but then let your child solve the problem. Some kids will immediately adjust their plans. Others will resist. It’s OK to step in and stop things if needed.
Let kids try some risky things under the supervision of an adult who models and discusses safety protocols. Allow your child to gradually assume more responsibility. In doing so they will feel that powerful emotion of pride through accomplishment.
Above all, encourage and praise your child’s ambition and determination. His desire to tackle challenges and take risks will serve him well in the years to come.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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