Normalize Apologizing to Your Children

September 07, 2022

Normalize Apologizing to Your Children



Most parents teach their kids to say “sorry” from a young age. Half the time our kids don’t really feel remorse when they make amends, yet we push them to do it anyway. So how do you set a good example? 


The best way to set a good example is to model it. Kids mirror your behavior. When you have done something wrong, regardless of your position, you should correct it and apologize. We don’t force apologies; we model them when needed. Apologizing is a way to show someone they matter to you, it builds trust, helps them feel heard and can deepen your connection. 


  • Admit what you have done wrong and ask for forgiveness. 

A better example is something like, “Mommy lost her temper. I am so sorry. I should not have acted that way. Will you forgive me. I will do better next time.” A good apology is one that owns the offense, asks for forgiveness, and makes effort to change in the future. 


  • Don’t blame or shame your child. 

Make sure your words are words of love and healing, not blame and shame. After that, appropriately deal with the disobedience. 


  • It is not about winning and losing 

Stop thinking you are on opposing teams. You are in this together as a family. Don’t ignore the power of apologizing. 


Do you apologize to your children when in the wrong? 

Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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