Positive Phrases to Use Instead of Stop, No, Don’t
As parents, the way we speak to our children is incredibly important. Words can build kids up, and they can just as easily tear them down. Which is why finding positive things to say to your child matters!
In a world were saying “no” is a heck of a lot easier than saying “yes”, we need to be especially careful that we use language which demonstrates to our kids that positivity has a higher value than negativity.
Children imitate what they see and hear. Meaning, they will imitate kindness if kind words are spoken at home.
Show your child you believe in them by using words of encouragement daily. It helps kids feel supported and loved and gives them a sense of empowerment that will stick with them into adulthood.
By making a habit of using positive phrases around your little ones you’ll be building their confidence and self-esteem
Here are the positive phrases to use daily to help them feel confident and loved.
- Let’s remember gentle hands
(“No Hitting” “Stop Fighting”)
- Outside is a good place for being loud
(No Shouting Inside the House!)
- Let’s try to breathe through these yucky feelings
(Calm Down, Stop Crying, No Whining)
- Let’s use kind words, please
(Don’t say that, don’t talk like that)
- Shoes are for your feet, remember?
(Stop throwing your shoes around the house)
- Why don’t you ask if you can use it when he is finished or You really want to play with that, don’t you? What could you say to her instead?’
- It’s windy outside today, let’s check the weather and see if tomorrow is good to take a walk
(No, we can’t walk today)
- Your toy car will be waiting for you at home when we are all finished with our grocery shopping
(No, you can’t bring your toy car)
- Let’s play at the park a different day, today we have so many other things we need to get done and I need your help! (No park today)
- Remember to walk in the house, please
(No running in the house!)
- If we eat all the popsicles in one day, there won’t be any left for tomorrow. And if you have too many, your tummy might get sore! Let’s save some for tomorrow.
(No more popsicles)
- There are a few more things that we need to do before we can watch a show, let’s go do them now and I’ll put on your favorite show right after.
(No TV right now)
- Are you feeling frustrated when the boxes fall? How can you solve this problem?
(Stop crying, they are just boxes)
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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