We teach our children by example. Most of what they learn and pick up is based on things we do and not on things we say.
When our children see us giving grace to others, forgiving them and seeing them as human they are able to forgive themselves and see their own selves as human. They allow themselves room to make mistakes and forgive themselves for their errors.
Conversely if we hold grudges, don’t forgive people or don’t see them in their humanity, our children learn that there is no room for human error or simple imperfections. They learn to be hard on themselves and may have difficulty moving past their own missteps.
So, forgiving others is not just helpful for living happier healthier lives, it’s important because it can impact our children’s self-esteem and the way they feel about themselves.