Implementing boundaries can be tricky. The real world is filled with rules and limitations. When rules and expectations are enforced without love, grace, and respect, the family atmosphere turns legalistic, without much room for grace and forgiveness.
Kids who understand healthy boundaries learn what it means to grow up and be more like an adult, listen and respond to authority. They develop a stronger sense of safety and security and can focus on fun and enjoyment rather than trying to figure out what rules are going to get them in trouble.
Using different activities to teach your children what their boundaries are, will help motivate them to follow the rules.
👉 Teach your children what the boundaries are, including inappropriate and acceptable physical touch.
👉 Demonstrate to your children how to work their problems out on their own. Solving your children’s problems every time they experience something unpleasant will send the message that there are no boundaries for taking personal responsibility.
👉 Spend regularly scheduled time alone with each of your children. It lets them know that you are a safe place to go when they are having trouble in their lives.
👉 Give children a chance to express their successes, failures, questions, and concerns. Children who feel as if they have a voice are more likely to follow your rules and adhere to your boundaries.
👉 Sometimes the best way to define or set a limit is with a good old fashion “no.” However, when “no” is overused on every nitpicky little irritation, it loses its value and creates a negative atmosphere.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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