Some days are easier than others.
That’s true in life and it’s true in parenting.
During the times when things are going your way, you’ve got energy, you’ve got flow, you’ve got co-operation – and you may even think you’re nailing it.
Then, in the blink of an eye, it all seems to go sideways. You feel side-swiped, confused, probably frustrated, and not a clue as to what to do with what’s erupting right in front of you.
Welcome to parenting.
One minute you’re up for it and the next, you’re reeling.
You’re being flooded by your own emotion and of course, it unsettles you. You might react before thinking, speak before realizing and move without planning.
Thing is, deep down you do know what to do, you might not know it in that very moment, so let me remind you.
You’re here to give love, and lots of it.
More than you think you’re capable of showing, possibly more than you think the child acting out in front of you ‘deserves’.
Rise above what they’ve said and what they’ve done.
Let go of trying to get them to see the error of their ways in this very moment.
See them as struggling with themselves and perhaps not against you.
See them as not being able to do better than they are right now.
See them as needing your love, now, more than ever.
Because that’s all true, right here, right now.
Emotions will settle, words will dissipate, and love will still be there.
It always is.
Lessons are being learnt along the way, maybe not in the way you think they ought to be taught, but the learning and the growing is happening.
Right here, right now.
So, lean in and love, because that’s what you’re here to do.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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