There is no universal by-the-book manual that will tell you the rights and wrongs or dos and don’ts for parenting. Often, it is a process of learning and adjusting for the parent. It involves experiences and guidance for one to develop their ability to raise a child, who will prepare them for the world. However, there are some telltale signs that are indicative of a parent’s negligence or authoritarianism in certain aspects. Some of which are:
Over or under involvement
Over – can be very limiting as to the child’s sense of agency, which can result in their overdependence and lack of independence. It can also lead them to rebel due to being very repressed.
Under – Very dangerous as the child is not provided with the most basic needs such as food, shelter, and clothing, or lacking in the sense of love, which can drive them to a dark path due to the lack of a guiding hand.
Little or no discipline
Defining boundaries and regulating their behavior is one of the most important principles a parent can teach their child. If the child grows up not knowing the consequences, it can lead to their own undoing.
Strict or rigid discipline
The exact opposite of the former, rigid discipline can render the child fearful of every decision they make and its outcomes. It can also lead them to be rebellious.
Withdrawing affection and attention
This type of parenting is emotionally destructive to the child as it will teach them that love is conditional and will believe that they must please a person for them to reciprocate the feeling of love, which can yield to abusive relationships and codependency.
Shaming a child will encourage them to fear imperfection and failure, thus makes them anxious of every aspect of themself, and in severe cases, depression.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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