We admit, it’s hard to see past a child’s behavior, especially when it comes to hitting.
When we are physically hit, it can trigger wounds from our past that remind us of unmet needs we may have had as children. We may not have gotten hit, but the physical force can make our bodies travel back into time to unconsciously remember painful memories.
A FEW IMPORTANT THINGS TO REMEMBER
-Hitting is a developmental expectation for kids 1-5.
-When a child hits, it means they are requiring your attention.
-Hitting is not a personal attack on you.
-You’re still a great parent if your child hits.
THE KEY TO STOPPING HITTING
-Be very consistent and predictable with how you respond.
VALIDATE THEIR EMOTIONS OR THE NEED WE SEE
“I see your body has a lot of wiggles it wants to express.”
TEACH THEM WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
“Our hands are not for hitting. We use gentle hands when we touch people’s faces. Here, show me gentle hands, please.”
PRAISE THE GOOD
“You did it! You just showed me gentle hands!”
There are so many ways to support our children during their hitting moments. We hope these ideas help you.
Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.
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