Putting Too Much Pressure on Kids

December 29, 2022

Putting Too Much Pressure on Kids



Many parents want to help their children be the best they can be. However, some parents put their children under too much pressure to perform. Being under such intense pressure can have serious consequences for kids. 


Kids who feel that they are under enormous pressure to do well from parents and adults can experience consequences in multiple areas of their life, from their mental health to their sleep. Here are just a few of the consequences of putting kids under too much pressure to perform.


  • Higher rates of mental illness. 
  • Higher risk of injuries. 
  • Increased likelihood of cheating.  
  • Refusing to participate. 
  • Self-esteem problems. 


There are some things that you can do as a parent to help your child without placing too much pressure on them. 


  • Encourage your child to do their best. Focus on the process, rather than the result. 
  • If you find yourself placing too much pressure on your child, ask yourself why their performance, test score, or success matters to you. 
  • Talk to your child about the sport/assignment/performance they are working on. Set aside your feelings to make room for your child to express theirs. Giving your child the space to be seen and heard will encourage them rather than make them feel they have disappointed you. 


Good parenting requires parents to nurture their child’s strengths and help with their weaknesses instead of forcing attributes upon them. 
Make sure your child is happy with what they are pursuing. 
Just like adults, children need a ‘check-out’ time to alleviate tension and reduce stress. 



Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.

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