The Way We Talk to Our Children Becomes Their Inner Voice

November 16, 2022

The Way We Talk to Our Children Becomes Their Inner Voice



Little kids tend to have harsh inner voices; they tell themselves they are “bad” easily. As kids get older, they begin to modify their self-criticism, accepting that they can both do things incorrectly and remedy situations. 


What they think of themselves is significantly influenced by how they think their parents view them. Your voice, whether gentle and kind, empathic and warm, or strident and harsh, becomes a big part of their inner voice. They treat themselves the way they have been treated. 


Changing the way, we talk to our children takes practice and intentionality. Why is it a great idea to talk respectfully and positively to our child? The way we talk to our child is going to influence them for a lifetime. 


  • It builds stronger bonds and relationships. 
  • Our children feel worthy. 
  • Our children feel loved. 
  • Our children listen to us better. 
  • Children imitate our talk. 
  • The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice. 
  • Your child is more likely to respect and trust you. 
  • The child develops higher self-esteem. 
  • The child is more confident. 


Having meaningful conversations with our children and giving specific praise not only helps our children feel loved, but it also lays the foundation for what they think about themselves. 



Coach Benjamin Mizrahi. Educator. Learning Specialist. Family Coach. Father. Husband.   

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